“Sometimes you just don’t want to see the reflection of yours through words or mirrors. Sometimes light just don’t show up cause, its in the dark that you are waiting for the clouds to clear. Sometimes its just the boredom you feel out of freedom. Sometimes your clock is ticking ticking but mind is stuck at a station. Sometimes when you feel helpless within, In urge to just help yourself out. It’s when you are willing to cry out but only walls revert you a hopeless shout. For those times, when everything is upside down, try a Headstand, Please. Reverse the effect of gravity in your body.”
It’s okay, to be in a posture which is opposite to the world around you. Feel the blood flowing in you. This is your Life.Live it for all the times. And realise that until the tick of your beat is gone, everything can become just Right. For a new ‘second’ to come, this one has to pass, so This time too shall pass.
I have written couple of poetries regarding support that one might need dealing a troubled mental situation he/she is into and the urge to delete this stigma attached with sharing issues of mental health with someone. You can check out the links here :
Am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, I don’t mean to prescribe you the steps that will work on your body or mind, I only am sharing what sometimes work for me when I am in the state of Anxiety, Depressions or any issue. It’s okay to have them, you know you just can’t deal and solve everything in your life at a particular moment. But one day you will. And that remains essential to tell oneself. You just don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations when you are not able to. Again I would say, Everything can just become normal, give a doctor to your self, give yourself to people who love you. You are not wrong if you feel so about your condition. Don’t think it’s The End. Your Life is too precious, if not for you but your loved ones. And please Don’t think you don’t have any. You do have. Ofcourse it’s your Life you decide what to do with that, but please Live to do it. And,
Someday Ears will be there to hear you,
someday, mind will Change it’s station,
someday freedom will release the pain,
someday you will wake up in light.
And that day, you will see your confidence luminate on your face, the victory of this Underdog will reflect and shine bright in the world.
Rip Sushant Singh Rajput, an Indian actor who was assumed to be in depression. You were a Man with Intelligence, a charming personality and a brilliant Actor. You are alive in our memories. May your soul rest in peace.
Do share anything that you wish to, I can be the ears to your cry. Also, I request you to share your views about dealing with anxiety or depression. What works for you?
When sunsets down, Her phone rings and she leaves the house for some sessions A routine she’d follow Without fail or procastination.
There wasn’t enough time For him to discuss his Sorrows Or suspicions; Illusive images of infidelity Oh, Pierced his heart with pins and needles of friction. And inarticulated judgements would fill to his thoughts of fiction, Ants in his pants made him restless To follow for investigation.
It was like sighting a misty mountain ahead of him, At the start of his mission Covered with murky notions About the presumptuous destination.
Panting with suffocation,Choked with dilemmas and futuristic decisions. Sometime later, his blurred sight reaches closer to a Clear destination. Veil was put off to see that mountain fogged was his sombered assumptions. an Illusion was struck hard with reality As his Oh! dear wife was seen voluntarily servingneedfulpatients.
Some people put their lives on risks even when they know the risk is too high of losing their own relationship s(cause sometimes they go against their family’s assent) to save others or give service to them. Salute to these warriors and their family members who sacrifice equally when they see their loved ones going extra mile for humanity.
Hundred, 100! When prefixed with percent, closure of the Doubts. When it’s a century, differentiates generations. With A Score, makes one a headliner. When it’s A Number, digits marking an achievement. 100 is told us to be Associated with a prodigy. So frequently used, Memories it makes! And so a 100 followers, mark a moment of gratitude. Gratitude for having you here, Gratitude for liking what I share, Gratitude for forgiving me with your smile😊, Gratitude for connecting from miles, Gratitude for bearing me for a while🙈.
And, Gratitude for believing in words, Gratitude for keeping in your hearts❤️; Gratitude for being my part, Gratitude for making it worth;
Immensly, truly and whole heartedly.
I am beholden by the love of you. You all are so special to me. And this moment is making me feel humbled and obliged because of your admiration to my work, crossed the mark of 50 posts, and a 100 followers! Isn’t this a moment to be grateful of?
I, with my whole heart thank you for reading my work, sharing your precious content with me. Your suggestions, your comments make it worth to be here. More to go and more to come. Happy loving, happy Sharing and Caring. Lots of Regards.
When I said, You heard. But only Silence muttered.
To me, Your words were like the Lull of falling waters, But this dead air has become a colossal storm Of thoughts whirling inside, An endless surge, hankering to hear.
Again When I said, You heard, But your sealed lips, moved away with No words I plead, to now, let this voice Be heard And let it so loud, That the thunders prevail And rains of tears fall from eyes Of the monsters, who mirthed. Remember, Your dearth of voice Will fervour their ruth But your roaring sound, shall stab them through.
Now for once Forgive yourself for The plight you’re hurt. Oh dear! when I said this I wish to hear from your chords, cause, Years have passed. Now, I beg you to Converse.
There are a lot of people who don’t speak out against the atrocities they are going through. There can be many Reasons with which they convince themselves for not speaking out, but that only kill them inside and make the cruel more powerful. So I really hope that the one who is going through cruelties or have been through any tragic incident or attack should not confine it to oneself. It’s not meant to be that way, Let it out and give your self chance to forgive and forget what happened. Don’t die trying to delete it inside you, dare to discuss with any person you’re comfortable with. Focus on mental health. May be if you speak, another one is saved from sealing his/her lips.
“Numb, broken into pieces Left in the cold, relinquished. A Cologne with footsteps advanced and held her up, With a Warm Hug, she came; To fix the shatters.”
No one can replace the place of a woman who supports another woman in need. Certainly, she comes to her full potential when she gets support from her men in life be it her father, brother, husband or friend but most importantly she needs support of another divine woman too. And this remains a silent key.
Hello All, today I am sharing few lines about my Birthplace Amroha a city of the Uttar Pradesh state in India. It is located north-west of Moradabad. These lines are not enough to describe the heart and soul of it but still would like to share them on the occasion of Eid as this festival is brightly celebrated here.
City That defines me, My worth of a few smiles, Marks a million to me, I cherish and rely. The winds never changed, Circulated and stayed, The sands and walls that engrained. Oh! They’re attached With the eyes of blind love The heart and soul of a dove.
City that celebrates moments and memories, Eids, Diwali, Christmas, or baisakhis.
Where varieties of mangoes that are found, I buy outside but miss the sweetness profound. My city I was born with Candy’s so raw Like the tingly taste of sourness poured. My city where the best variety of biryani’s served, Appetizing with spices and flavours savoured. My city of charming scents of spells They say who pray here never goes to hell My city, my roots Strongly so blend, the streets, the honks, The vendors and friends My city is whispers of love, emotions I believe It is where I woke up to the world and is where I’d fall asleep.
कि दूर कहीं बादलों को चीर रहे होंगे, कि कहीं आसमां भी धधक उठेगा मेरे आगमन की ध्वनि से। सोचा तोह था… कि नदी को रास्ता और समन्दर की गहराई को भी छू लेंगे कि मछलियां भी सहम उठेगी मेरे आगमन की ध्वनि से। सोचा तोह था कि सबसे शक्तिशाली जीव बनके मनुष्य को भगवान बनादेंगे कि ईश्वर भी आश्चर्यचकित हो उठेगा मेरी उपलब्धियों की हानि से सोचा तोह था..पर सोच उसी बक्से में बंद रेहगई जिसमें सोचा था कि एक वायरस को रखकर शोध करेंगे ।
Almost every girl in India has played a game called ‘Ghar-Ghar’ where in she will dress up nicely with all the makeup and do the house hold activities with her fellow friends. So Today I am going to share about a ritual which every Indian Woman cherishes to do in her life.
We know Brides of India, dress up on the day of wedding or festivals and put 16 Adornments or Solah Shringar to give them a Goddess-like Aura. So I am going to give an insight to what the Shringaar looks like.
Solah Shringar means 16 Bridal Adornments that include sixteen steps that women follow for her beautification from head to toe. Maharani or Queens of medieval times in India used to perform the Solah Shringar whenever they made public appearances.
Traditionally, before commencing the Shringar oiling and washing of the hair is done. The complexion of the bride is then enhanced with ubtan or Angrag. It is made by mixing sandalwood, kaliyak, agaru, turmeric powder, gram flour and oil, It was made in different types for use in winter and summer. Both men and women used it for fragrance and coolness. And then follows her ceremonial bath.
Then she adores herself with the Shringaar along with her Bridal/festive dress.
16 Adornments Include:
The bride wears a big bindi/Dot between her eyebrows. Traditionally, it used to be applied with the help of the vermilion powder, but now the gem-encrusted bindis are popularly used.
Significance– It is said that the Bindi is applied where the ‘Agya Chakra’ exists. The Agya Chakra is situated in the middle of the forehead, between the eyebrows. It is also known as the “third eye”. The Agya Chakra is the centre of clarity and wisdom. Hence For concentration of the Mind, Bindi is included.
2. Sindoor/Vermilion Powder
Sindoor or vermillion is a red-colored powder that is applied on parting of the bride’s hair. it is worn by Married women only.
Significance– This ritual has a sacred significance. The color red denotes marriage and the well-being of the husband.
3. Maang Tikka
Maang tikka is a hair accessory that adorns the forehead of the bride. It is usually made out of gold and precious gems.
Significance– This ornament increases the charm of the bride as it highlights her face.
4. Anjana or Kajal
Eyes are accentuated with Anjana or Kohl or Kajal,which is applied on the edges of the eyelids to make the eyes look attractive. Earlier, Kajal was prepared by collecting the soot of an earthen lamp by lighting a wick in clarified butter or ghee.
Significance-It is put to protect from Evil eye.
5. Nath or Nose Ornament
The bride also wears a nose ring which provides the traditional ethnic Indian look. The ornate nath, which is comprised of clusters of gems or pearls, is supported by a gold chain, which is fastened behind the ear for support.
Significance- It is believed in Ayurveda, that if the nose is pierced on or near a particular node on the nostril, it gives relief in the pain during periods. Also, another theory holds that piercing must be done on the left nostril as the nerves on that side connect to the female reproductive organs and thus, during childbirth, the pain is comparatively less.
6. Haar or Necklace
A souvenir from the husband to his wife is Mangalsutra, – necklace made out of gold and black beads.
Significance-The Haar or the necklace is another adornment which is symbolic of prosperity.
7. Karn Phool or Ear Ornaments or Earrings
Karn Phool or earrings is another important element of Bride’s makeover. It is worn complementing the haar or necklace. They are also Called Jhumkas and are indispensable for a woman doing the Shringaar
Significance-According to Ayurveda, the lobe of the ear has an important point right in the center. This point is one of the most important areas for reproductive health. Moreover, piercing of ear also helps maintain a healthy menstrual cycle in females. It is said that when people wear earrings, the flow of energy is maintained in their bodies.
Applied on hand and feet in beautiful designs is an element that makes the bride look different from the rest with her feet and arms.
Significance- The red, brown/maroon color of Mehendi is considered to be auspicious and signifies love between the couples.
9. Choodiyan or Bangles
In Bengali/ North eastern cultures of India, women wear Shankha Pola and Loha, bangles made of Shell, Lac and Iron to convey their married status. Women from Punjab wear Chudas, red and white bangles made of ivory and embellished with semi-precious stones, to symbolize their married statuses. Bangles of green, red ore maroon colors adds a Goddess like beauty to a woman
Significance-It is mandatory for the bride to wear bangles, which signify the long life and prosperity of her groom.
10. Baajuband or Armlet
Bajuband, also known as armlets, is worn by the bride on the upper part of the arm. It is common to see Rajasthani and South Indian brides wear them. Baajuband is either made of gold or silver and can be embellished with gems or pearls.
Significance-The area where Bajuband is worn is an acupressure point which helps women fight many physical problems like Headache, Muscle and bone pain.
11. Aarsi & Haathphool
Haathphool are the eight rings (barring the two thumbs) that the bride wears on both her hands. These are attached to a central flower adornment on the upper part of the hand. Apart from wearing eight rings in the fingers, the bride also wears the Aarsi which is the thumb ring
Significance- Aarsi is usually set with a mirror which enables the bride to get a glimpse of the groom. The reason behind this was that earlier, the brides had veils which did not give them an opportunity to see their husband to be.
12. Keshapasharachana or Hair Accessory
This stands for the hair adornment. Jasmine flowers are traditionally used because of their long lasting fragrance.
The Jadanagam of South India, or, literally, the hair-serpent, is worn by brides to decorate braided hair. The rakkadi at the back of the head in the shape of the sun, symbolic of brilliance and power, is followed by the crescent moon, evocative of calm and peace. The third piece is the fragrant thazhambu flower (screwpine).
Significance- to enhance the beauty.
13. Kamarband or Waist Accessory
Kamarband is the waistband that enhances the graceful shape of a female silhouette. This ornament is made out of gold and embellished with gems. Significance-This ornate belt also helps in keeping the dress or sari in place.
Payal also known as anklets are chains of silver or gold with chiming beads and designs hanging to it.
Significance- While, the bride walks in these anklets, it signifies the entry of Goddess Lakshmi.
Stands for toe rings which are made in either silver or gold.
Significance-They are usually worn on the second toe and are significant of married life.
16. Itar or Scent
Itar or scent or perfume is another element of the Solah Shringar
Significance-It lets out a fragrance which keeps the bride smelling good throughout the long duration of wedding rituals.
This Completes 16 Adornments, they may slightly vary from culture to culture in India some may add Lipsticks. Nail paints etc but overall this whole Shringaar holds a prominent significance to the entire womanhood in the country.
And love, when added on with the adornments, Completes her Beauty.
शाम हुई नहीं कि उनका खेल फिर शुरू होगया हम गर्म चाय बनाए बैठे हैं और वो बर्फ मिलाए बैठे हैं।
अब झगड़ा ना हो तो फिर क्या हो हम जहां मुंह बनाए बैठे हैं वो वहीं मुंह पे हल्की सी, मुस्कराहट लाए बैठे हैं। फिर यही देखकर हम आंखो में अंगार लाए बैठे हैं, वहीं ग्लास को होठों के ज़रा पास लाकर आंखों में वो, और प्यार लाए बैठे हैं।
और इस तरह हर शाम हम, गरमाए रहते हैं वहीं बोतल खोले वो शाम से, हमें बेहकाय रहते हैं।
It’s about anger that’s developed in a mind when emotions lose stablity and control. And it’s very important to learn to maintain this balance between our mind and intellect.
If mind wins, intellect loses in that situation, and when intellect is put in darkness, the soul is wounded and so does the impatient mind who craves for peace or healing(because untrained mind always runs to find solace outside but never settles with just it’s own self) gets angry and anger if remained unchannelised,Mind you, yes unchannelised anger becomes the cause of his suffering and branches of suffering shoots out really fast. And therefore More suffering.
It’s also dependent on the food we take, be it for our stomach to survive or for our thoughts. It’s believed in Ayurveda that We become, what we eat. So watching everytime what we take inside, puts us into the Law of attraction naturally. We take what’s better for us, we are in tranquil state. So Anger is just one part of our incapability of stopping our mind to hijack our intellect. And hence the loss happens. I remember a verse from Bhagwad Geeta(a Hindu Scripture) which has helped me many times to control the imbalance of my emotions and that is :
‘indriyani parany ahur indriyebhyah param manah manasas tu para buddhir yo buddheh paratas tu sah’ TRANSLATION: The working senses are superior to dull matter; mind is higher than the senses; intelligence is still higher than the mind; and he [the soul] is even higher than the intelligence.
It’s our choice that We do a business with reaction which is mind’s natural tendency or response which is intellect’s light , See which’s profitable!