"Mile toh samjha nahi, Samjhe toh mila nhi". Translation-"You don't realize when you have it, You realize; when you lose it."
Author:Light of Life
I am born in India, am a Civil Engineer by profession and Punjabi by nature. I am pleased to have you here reading my words. I hope you are doing fantastically fine. This is a brief introduction about myself, Apart from building roads at work, I spend my time writing poetries and articles. Also, I love to garden, plant saplings and see them grow. You would agree that Everything needs the right amount of resources and time to come out in their full form and Nature is the best teacher of it.
I also have an interest in travelling, I love to talk to people I meet in my odyssey and understand the subtle emotions they try to connect with.
I have travelled most parts of India and would love to see the entire country. Also, am keen to know different cultures of the world that define Humanity.
I Believe in Love, Laughters and Listening. Happy to have you reading till the end
“She was playing in the fields It was five in the eve Sharing chuckles and giggles with her peeps, Suddenly, her eyes see her pants bleed. She wasn’t informed of- About these monthly norms, so Befuddled! She runs, with a A timorous sob, And shows her mother Her imbrued shorts.
Hush Hush, she was told To grab the piece of cloth From a 12 year old, you are now a lady grown! Prepare with adornments For your ceremonial flaunts It’s a monthly deal, your body has owned.
And this ‘Red dot’ shows up Every 28 days like the moon is sought. But with these 5 days, Many social stigmas are brought, Prejudices and discrimination heavies her bloat. Towels torn to be used for repititive clots. Unaware about the hygiene Her life is though put, on a Risky shot.
Infrastructure, sanitary supplies, Medications are needed a lot, Be aware not hide, cause Periods are not a shame Or a taboo to be thought!”
I am a little late in posting this but, Better late than Never. I think almost every woman who reads my post here, is privileged enough to get the necessary supplies for her menstrual hygiene but I believe she must be certainly connected to women( like helpers, cooks, maids, any friend, acquaintance,e.t.c) who don’t have much access/ awareness about the importance of menstrual hygiene. And I too participate in spreading information about this, which is crucial in this time of adversity. Doing my duty as a Netizen, for those who are deprived of their Fundamental Rights.
‘Periods in pandemics’ The pandemic has adversely affected millions of women and girls from economically disadvantaged sections of the society who are finding it difficult to manage their periods safely, hygienically and with dignity.
The UNICEF-launched a week-long campaign #RedDotChallenge for ensuring all girls manage their periods safely.
The campaign was launched ahead of the Menstrual Hygiene Day — to recognise the importance of menstrual health and hygiene issues and bring to attention the difficulties faced by adolescent girls, further exacerbated amidst the crisis.
The theme for this year’s MHD was ‘Periods in pandemics’.
The Menstrual Hygiene Day is an annual event which was initiated in the year 2014 by the German based NGO WASH United which aims to benefit women and girl worldwide through their awareness programme. May 28 was selected as the day to acknowledge that 28 days is the average length of the menstrual cycle.
India is also participating in the campaign through social media, many celebrities including the former Miss World Manushi Chhillar have come up with their posts of awareness.
Indian Railways took the initiative to spread awareness about menstrual hygiene among women passengers on Shramik trains.
Assam Branch of Indian Tea Association (ABITA)-UNICEF celebrated Menstrual Hygiene Day in various tea gardens (ABITA) with the sole objective of creating awareness among the tea garden community on ‘Menstrual Hygiene Management’.
If you wish you may share this post and spread the word, if you have suggestions, do comment below and please I request to talk to women or girls who work under you about their conditions. May be you can help them in some way. Thank you.
Thanks for reading.
Ps: I forgot to mention out something, yes I know Men might hesitate to share these talks straightaway with women, thinking they might offended or something. I can still help you in participating, so this month, when you give your helpers(male) or your employees a salary, do gift them a packet of sanitary napkin with piece of advice to protect their wives’ or loved one’s health.
The Indian Administrative Service (IAS) is the administrative arm of the All India Services. Considered as the premier civil service of India. And the exam to select the candidates is considered to be the toughest exam conducted in India and often called as the Mother of all the examinations.
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हवाओं को वश में करना आसान नहीं होता l 135 करोड़ को घर में ठहराना आसान नहीं होता। बवंडर के बीच नौका पर सवार होकर उसे चला पाना आसान नहीं होता। बस्तियों को तूफान से बचा पाना आसान नहीं होता। घुट रही सांसों को नया जीवन दिला पाना आसान नहीं होता। अपने प्रिय से बिछड़ जाना आसान नहीं होता।
सूरज की तरह सबको चमकाना आसान नहीं होता । हर बगीचे की कलियों को फूल बना पाना आसान नहीं होता। अपने अतीत को बदल पाना आसान नहीं होता। हर किरदार को निभा पाना आसान नहीं होता। कल को आज बना पाना भी आसान नहीं होता।
वैसे तोह सब कुछ समझ आजना यह आसान नहीं होता। पर इतना समझ लो कि “देश को अकेले चला पाना, यह तोह बिल्कुल आसान नहीं होता”।
I am so grateful to everything around me, each one of you who has kept me safe till now, the air around me, my flowers, people who have directly or indirectly come in my zone of influence very single entity who has been supporting each other to fight and survive, I am truly blessed to have them.
Our government is running tirelessly to provide best support to us, and now started to UNLOCK the country in phases. We ought to give them support so that they can work efficiently, let’s realise that everything is for us. The rules, the restrictions, The exemptions, everything is for you and me . So let’s join them to best coordinate,
cause its not so easy to do everything Alone.
Happy UnLock1.0. Keep healthy. Stay positive and safe. Keep loving!
When life seems a white paper So Take a brush and paint it With some bright of Reds’, mild of pastels’, dark of blacks’ and haze of Greys’.
When life seems an empty plate So take a knife And peel the skins away Platter it with sweet of sugars’, Sour of lemons’, spice of chillies’, sprinkles of salts’.
When life seems a sky with clouds Lifeless scenery of woods standing out So take a pin, And bursts them loud, Turn on the music of rains And dance with waters falling on window panes.
When life seems with wear and tear complains Call the experts, Grease it, sweat it and renew it to make it work out.
And still if it seems like an empty glass Open the cap of the bottle Pour it in With ice cubes or water Take a Cheers, Smile!
Tomorrow you will feel it full.
Inspired by one of my friend who reminded me in a conversation that Life is beautiful and alot is there to explore. Colours of life are only adding beauty to it. The blacks and Grey’s they are impactful. They are necessary.
The sour and bitters are needed to enjoy the flavours because they open up the taste buds of life.
The dark clouds are necessary to enjoy the dance of tears and sorrows on our cheeks. And the wears and tears are part and parcel of life. They force to keep maintaining ourselves.
And lastly, if everything is wailing and there is only shadow that you see, Open your bottle of joy, emotions and drink with cool ice to Let it flow! Let it go! Or Let it be! Take a chill pill, take a deep breath. Smile. Life is Gorgeous.
When I said, You heard. But only Silence muttered.
To me, Your words were like the Lull of falling waters, But this dead air has become a colossal storm Of thoughts whirling inside, An endless surge, hankering to hear.
Again When I said, You heard, But your sealed lips, moved away with No words I plead, to now, let this voice Be heard And let it so loud, That the thunders prevail And rains of tears fall from eyes Of the monsters, who mirthed. Remember, Your dearth of voice Will fervour their ruth But your roaring sound, shall stab them through.
Now for once Forgive yourself for The plight you’re hurt. Oh dear! when I said this I wish to hear from your chords, cause, Years have passed. Now, I beg you to Converse.
There are a lot of people who don’t speak out against the atrocities they are going through. There can be many Reasons with which they convince themselves for not speaking out, but that only kill them inside and make the cruel more powerful. So I really hope that the one who is going through cruelties or have been through any tragic incident or attack should not confine it to oneself. It’s not meant to be that way, Let it out and give your self chance to forgive and forget what happened. Don’t die trying to delete it inside you, dare to discuss with any person you’re comfortable with. Focus on mental health. May be if you speak, another one is saved from sealing his/her lips.
“Numb, broken into pieces Left in the cold, relinquished. A Cologne with footsteps advanced and held her up, With a Warm Hug, she came; To fix the shatters.”
No one can replace the place of a woman who supports another woman in need. Certainly, she comes to her full potential when she gets support from her men in life be it her father, brother, husband or friend but most importantly she needs support of another divine woman too. And this remains a silent key.
Hello All, today I am sharing few lines about my Birthplace Amroha a city of the Uttar Pradesh state in India. It is located north-west of Moradabad. These lines are not enough to describe the heart and soul of it but still would like to share them on the occasion of Eid as this festival is brightly celebrated here.
City That defines me, My worth of a few smiles, Marks a million to me, I cherish and rely. The winds never changed, Circulated and stayed, The sands and walls that engrained. Oh! They’re attached With the eyes of blind love The heart and soul of a dove.
City that celebrates moments and memories, Eids, Diwali, Christmas, or baisakhis.
Where varieties of mangoes that are found, I buy outside but miss the sweetness profound. My city I was born with Candy’s so raw Like the tingly taste of sourness poured. My city where the best variety of biryani’s served, Appetizing with spices and flavours savoured. My city of charming scents of spells They say who pray here never goes to hell My city, my roots Strongly so blend, the streets, the honks, The vendors and friends My city is whispers of love, emotions I believe It is where I woke up to the world and is where I’d fall asleep.
कि दूर कहीं बादलों को चीर रहे होंगे, कि कहीं आसमां भी धधक उठेगा मेरे आगमन की ध्वनि से। सोचा तोह था… कि नदी को रास्ता और समन्दर की गहराई को भी छू लेंगे कि मछलियां भी सहम उठेगी मेरे आगमन की ध्वनि से। सोचा तोह था कि सबसे शक्तिशाली जीव बनके मनुष्य को भगवान बनादेंगे कि ईश्वर भी आश्चर्यचकित हो उठेगा मेरी उपलब्धियों की हानि से सोचा तोह था..पर सोच उसी बक्से में बंद रेहगई जिसमें सोचा था कि एक वायरस को रखकर शोध करेंगे ।
Almost every girl in India has played a game called ‘Ghar-Ghar’ where in she will dress up nicely with all the makeup and do the house hold activities with her fellow friends. So Today I am going to share about a ritual which every Indian Woman cherishes to do in her life.
We know Brides of India, dress up on the day of wedding or festivals and put 16 Adornments or Solah Shringar to give them a Goddess-like Aura. So I am going to give an insight to what the Shringaar looks like.
Solah Shringar means 16 Bridal Adornments that include sixteen steps that women follow for her beautification from head to toe. Maharani or Queens of medieval times in India used to perform the Solah Shringar whenever they made public appearances.
Traditionally, before commencing the Shringar oiling and washing of the hair is done. The complexion of the bride is then enhanced with ubtan or Angrag. It is made by mixing sandalwood, kaliyak, agaru, turmeric powder, gram flour and oil, It was made in different types for use in winter and summer. Both men and women used it for fragrance and coolness. And then follows her ceremonial bath.
Then she adores herself with the Shringaar along with her Bridal/festive dress.
16 Adornments Include:
The bride wears a big bindi/Dot between her eyebrows. Traditionally, it used to be applied with the help of the vermilion powder, but now the gem-encrusted bindis are popularly used.
Significance– It is said that the Bindi is applied where the ‘Agya Chakra’ exists. The Agya Chakra is situated in the middle of the forehead, between the eyebrows. It is also known as the “third eye”. The Agya Chakra is the centre of clarity and wisdom. Hence For concentration of the Mind, Bindi is included.
2. Sindoor/Vermilion Powder
Sindoor or vermillion is a red-colored powder that is applied on parting of the bride’s hair. it is worn by Married women only.
Significance– This ritual has a sacred significance. The color red denotes marriage and the well-being of the husband.
3. Maang Tikka
Maang tikka is a hair accessory that adorns the forehead of the bride. It is usually made out of gold and precious gems.
Significance– This ornament increases the charm of the bride as it highlights her face.
4. Anjana or Kajal
Eyes are accentuated with Anjana or Kohl or Kajal,which is applied on the edges of the eyelids to make the eyes look attractive. Earlier, Kajal was prepared by collecting the soot of an earthen lamp by lighting a wick in clarified butter or ghee.
Significance-It is put to protect from Evil eye.
5. Nath or Nose Ornament
The bride also wears a nose ring which provides the traditional ethnic Indian look. The ornate nath, which is comprised of clusters of gems or pearls, is supported by a gold chain, which is fastened behind the ear for support.
Significance- It is believed in Ayurveda, that if the nose is pierced on or near a particular node on the nostril, it gives relief in the pain during periods. Also, another theory holds that piercing must be done on the left nostril as the nerves on that side connect to the female reproductive organs and thus, during childbirth, the pain is comparatively less.
6. Haar or Necklace
A souvenir from the husband to his wife is Mangalsutra, – necklace made out of gold and black beads.
Significance-The Haar or the necklace is another adornment which is symbolic of prosperity.
7. Karn Phool or Ear Ornaments or Earrings
Karn Phool or earrings is another important element of Bride’s makeover. It is worn complementing the haar or necklace. They are also Called Jhumkas and are indispensable for a woman doing the Shringaar
Significance-According to Ayurveda, the lobe of the ear has an important point right in the center. This point is one of the most important areas for reproductive health. Moreover, piercing of ear also helps maintain a healthy menstrual cycle in females. It is said that when people wear earrings, the flow of energy is maintained in their bodies.
Applied on hand and feet in beautiful designs is an element that makes the bride look different from the rest with her feet and arms.
Significance- The red, brown/maroon color of Mehendi is considered to be auspicious and signifies love between the couples.
9. Choodiyan or Bangles
In Bengali/ North eastern cultures of India, women wear Shankha Pola and Loha, bangles made of Shell, Lac and Iron to convey their married status. Women from Punjab wear Chudas, red and white bangles made of ivory and embellished with semi-precious stones, to symbolize their married statuses. Bangles of green, red ore maroon colors adds a Goddess like beauty to a woman
Significance-It is mandatory for the bride to wear bangles, which signify the long life and prosperity of her groom.
10. Baajuband or Armlet
Bajuband, also known as armlets, is worn by the bride on the upper part of the arm. It is common to see Rajasthani and South Indian brides wear them. Baajuband is either made of gold or silver and can be embellished with gems or pearls.
Significance-The area where Bajuband is worn is an acupressure point which helps women fight many physical problems like Headache, Muscle and bone pain.
11. Aarsi & Haathphool
Haathphool are the eight rings (barring the two thumbs) that the bride wears on both her hands. These are attached to a central flower adornment on the upper part of the hand. Apart from wearing eight rings in the fingers, the bride also wears the Aarsi which is the thumb ring
Significance- Aarsi is usually set with a mirror which enables the bride to get a glimpse of the groom. The reason behind this was that earlier, the brides had veils which did not give them an opportunity to see their husband to be.
12. Keshapasharachana or Hair Accessory
This stands for the hair adornment. Jasmine flowers are traditionally used because of their long lasting fragrance.
The Jadanagam of South India, or, literally, the hair-serpent, is worn by brides to decorate braided hair. The rakkadi at the back of the head in the shape of the sun, symbolic of brilliance and power, is followed by the crescent moon, evocative of calm and peace. The third piece is the fragrant thazhambu flower (screwpine).
Significance- to enhance the beauty.
13. Kamarband or Waist Accessory
Kamarband is the waistband that enhances the graceful shape of a female silhouette. This ornament is made out of gold and embellished with gems. Significance-This ornate belt also helps in keeping the dress or sari in place.
Payal also known as anklets are chains of silver or gold with chiming beads and designs hanging to it.
Significance- While, the bride walks in these anklets, it signifies the entry of Goddess Lakshmi.
Stands for toe rings which are made in either silver or gold.
Significance-They are usually worn on the second toe and are significant of married life.
16. Itar or Scent
Itar or scent or perfume is another element of the Solah Shringar
Significance-It lets out a fragrance which keeps the bride smelling good throughout the long duration of wedding rituals.
This Completes 16 Adornments, they may slightly vary from culture to culture in India some may add Lipsticks. Nail paints etc but overall this whole Shringaar holds a prominent significance to the entire womanhood in the country.
And love, when added on with the adornments, Completes her Beauty.
शाम हुई नहीं कि उनका खेल फिर शुरू होगया हम गर्म चाय बनाए बैठे हैं और वो बर्फ मिलाए बैठे हैं।
अब झगड़ा ना हो तो फिर क्या हो हम जहां मुंह बनाए बैठे हैं वो वहीं मुंह पे हल्की सी, मुस्कराहट लाए बैठे हैं। फिर यही देखकर हम आंखो में अंगार लाए बैठे हैं, वहीं ग्लास को होठों के ज़रा पास लाकर आंखों में वो, और प्यार लाए बैठे हैं।
और इस तरह हर शाम हम, गरमाए रहते हैं वहीं बोतल खोले वो शाम से, हमें बेहकाय रहते हैं।